Monday, December 19, 2016

December 20, 2016



A woman on Ravelry posted a photo of a lovely handspun hat she just finished (oh, the stripes!).  She was wearing the hat, looking either bored or contemplative.  She clarified that she was more deep in thought than bored, and when I started to comment on her post, my compliment on her hat quickly got buried in thoughts on thoughtfulness.  I edited back to the compliment, and decided to do a blog post for the rest!

It's a good season for spending some time thinking--holidays, cold (if you're a northerner), end of the year/start of the new.  I've needed to slow down and reflect some myself recently--on the past year (a doozy, good and bad) and the near & distant future.   


If, as Herod, we fill our lives with things, and again with things; if we consider ourselves so unimportant that we must fill every moment of our lives with action, when will we have time to make the long slow journey across the desert as did the magi? Or sit and watch the stars as did the shepherds? Or brood over the coming of the child as did Mary? For each one of us there is a desert to travel, a star to discover, and a being within ourselves to bring to life.
- Anonymous


 The “If as Herod” quote has been tumbling around my head the past few days, appropriate for the season, but a good reminder any time of the year that if I want to “travel…discover…” and “[bring] a being within [myself]…to life”, I’ve got to make a long slow journey, sit and watch, and maybe even brood.  I have definitely been filling my life with things and action the past six months.  Not that I consider myself so important—oh wait, that’s not what the quote says—the quote says if we consider ourselves unimportant, then we fill our lives with things.  Shit.  Fail.  

I’ve been busy the past six months—after beginning divorce proceedings (still in progress-sigh) and moving a thousand miles across the country, I started a new job, went back to school part-time, found and furnished (still working on it!) an apartment, bought a car, ran my first 5K (hooray!!!), and went on over a dozen first dates (as well as a half-dozen second dates, now seeing Dr. Cashmere for almost two months).

Have I made any long slow journeys?  Well, yeah, that 1,000-mile drive home was long, all right!  And the divorce has been an agonizing(ly slow) Journey with a capital J!  Have I sat and watched the stars?  Actually, I have spent some solid time star-gazing.  They’re a lovely sight that I mostly missed in the washout of NYC light pollution the past two years, but I’ve admired Orion while biking home from work at night, and done some impromptu yoga back bends with Cassiopeia while Molly debates the merits of this patch of grass or that.  Have I brooded over the coming of a child?  Just maybe-- I am that child, that being within that demands (new) life, though brooding over myself…well, yeah, that pretty much happened too, haha!

So, literally and without thinking of it, I’ve actually done what the quote suggests.  But, at the risk of being too self-critical, I think I may have missed the true message of the quote, which is to slow the fuck down, already.  I had worried that with all I was up to these past months, I was going to get sick.  I averaged around 5-6 hours of sleep a night (on that damn futon1), and food was fuel, not necessarily of the most nutritious or balanced variety.  Except for a very brief cold, I surprisingly managed to stay in good physical health (did the jogging, biking, and swimming help?) 

Hmm, but did I fall ill in a spiritual sense, maybe?  My beloved spiritual side mostly disappeared around September when I was last reading Kahlil Gibran’s The Prophet and sending loving kindness to my bosses (ugh), the ex (UGH), and the cashier at the grocery store.  In hindsight, I’ve missed that spiritual depth.  It’s rekindled a bit the last week, with more free time after classes ended, and the divorce seems to have reached a point of temporary rest.  I also received a new issue of Spirituality and Health magazine at just the right time when I have set aside class readings at my dinner break and can read whatever I choose (the luxury of time! the bliss of choice!).  So I’ve been reading the magazine, as well as a book I picked up at the college library: The Renaissance Soul: Life Design for People with Too Many Passions to Pick Just One (sounds like me!).

I’m still journeying, still watching, still brooding.  I’m not sure I have any travels, discoveries, or new life to report on (yet) but I’m hoping that writing this post, I’ll keep that spiritual side a little closer to my heart and see what comes of it…


1 December 24 update: 'adult' bed set delivered!!! Thank you Santa...er...Steinhafel's financing, lol.

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